JM: Right, so in some ways its not just a question of what kind of parent are you talking aboutbut what kind of happiness are you talking about. Parenting does not give rise to the same hedonic pleasure that defines other kinds of happinessit instead. Early all of us buy into what I call the myths of happiness beliefs that certain adult achievements. Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd. Flag for. The Myths of Happiness has 1099 ratings and 130 reviews. Mark said: I give this four stars not so much for the writing, but for the wisdom. Sonja Lyubom. But on average, people dont seem miserable for as long as we think they do. Take divorce. It turns out that people are remarkably resilient after divorceincluding the children. I was just looking at some data that show that after a few years, divorced people. I always think about people like me, who are married and who have kidsI mean, how many of us have a dozen friendships that weve maintained for decades? And single people also, of course, get meaning and purpose from their work, from hobbies, from other. Below we present a condensed version of the discussion. Jason Marsh: Your book is called The Myths of Happiness. Can you give us an example of the kind of myth youre talking about? Sonja Lyubomirsky: There are really two categories. But because our culture holds passionate love up as an ideal, we think that there must be something wrong with us when our relationships arent as exciting to us a few years later than they were at the beginning. But, you know, after we published that paper we asked ourselves: Well, is the question whether parents are happier even a very meaningful question, because theres so many different kinds of parents? Can you really lump together parents of newborns to parents of 30-year-olds?